* Take lead! Don’t just sit and wait for other members to send you a message. Showing initiative will improve your chances considerably. Always try to reply promptly to emails you receive, don’t worry about looking too eager, replying promptly shows good manners

* Be sure to have a photo displayed with your profile, most members will only respond to profiles with photos. When choosing your photo, it should be clear and preferably showing you happy, a smile goes along way!

* You can upload your photo directly from within the site, you can email it to us or you can post us your photo (please see ‘contact us’) and we will scan and add your photo for you for FREE!

* Please make sure your profile is an accurate description of yourself and that it sounds genuine, interesting and fun. Perhaps reading it back to yourself will enable you to see it from other member’s point of view, would you reply to you?! You can click on "Edit My Profile" at any time to change it.

* When sending an email, Take a long look at what you have wrote, ask yourself if you would want to reply if you had received it.

* Try to sound interested in the person you are emailing, "You sound nice, can we meet up?" does not display much imagination! Tell them about yourself, your hobbies and interests, make yourself sound interesting, don't just say "I like to laugh and go out", write something funny and show them you really do like a laugh. Tell them about the last place you did go, etc…

* However above all else be honest, lying gets you nowhere fast and you more likely than not will get found out eventually, thus ruining any chance of a new friendship/relationship.

* Please never mention sex or imply you are seeking sex, that is a big turn off and I doubt that that approach will be a successful one.

* Try not to email lots of people at once, send out a few at first, see if you receive the desired response, if not perhaps review what you have written and rewrite if necessary.